|
What is your question? Thinking about my mother has been giving me a lot of anxiety recently. Because my mother suffers from bipolar disorder and has been in and out of mental hospitals since I was 11 years old. But she's been in a mental hospital for the past four months and I haven't been able to see her. And during this period, I've become distanced from my mother and haven't wanted to talk to her. And no one knows anything about my mother's illness. So I was thinking about how I would tell them because I occasionally have panic attacks when I think about my mother, and I simply want my friends to be aware of her and my panic attacks so they can help me. Mr. Bobcat
You have obviously been through a lot lately and I want you to just take a break and breath, breathing has helped me personally through something called stress-induced asthma. This disease makes me have a hard time breathing when I'm stressed out. I know this might be scary and tough for you. I think that if you want to make your friends aware of what is happening in your life, you should just tell them. I think that they will understand. If they don't, they are the wrong people for you. I don't think you should have to make telling your friends should be a big deal unless you want it to be. You could just bring it up and make them aware. If you need anyone to talk to I suggest that you go to the school counselor or a hope squad member. these people will listen and help you.
0 Comments
What's your question?
Me and my family decided to move to a new home and it is kind of weird i am not used to it at all. When I was little I moved a lot but since then its been like 2 times I don't know what to do. Mr. Bobcat We all know how you feel. Here is our advice. First, you can decorate and rearrange your new house to make it feel like home. You can put up the same decorations, furniture, and other things that you had in your old house to make you feel more comfortable and used to your surroundings. Another tip is you could do the same activities and things that you did in your old house. It can be hard but we promise that over time your new house will start to feel more like home. There is a saying that says, "Family makes this house a home." As long as you are happy with your family, because family is more important than your house, over time you will also be happy with your home. Good luck! What is your question?
I'm an orphan and I like school and and have pretty nice clothes. I have 2 best friends, but they don't know I'm an orphan. I want to tell them but they might laugh at me. what should i do? Mr.Bobcat: I don't think this situation is going to be as scary as you think. If your friends are truly your best friends they won't laugh. If anything they might feel sad or sorry for you. This is because they love you and want you to feel loved. If they laugh, you need to ditch those friends and find ones that love you and want to help you. Being an orphan doesn't make you different than anyone else. You are still a person that everyone should love and care about. What is your question?
Ok, so I have a friend that I have a huge crush on. We have known each other for a long time, and we are super close! I don't know if he feels the same way. He is one of my best friends, and I don't want our friendship to change. I just wonder if he does like me. Like what would be the signs if he does like me? Mr. Bobcat: Dear Friends or More, This is a tricky one! If there were a simple way to know whether people like you, we wouldn't have the dating drama that feeds our favorite romantic comedies. The truth is, there is only one way to know for sure, and it's what I recommend in this case. How do you know if he likes you? Ask him! Guys are fairly simple when it comes to this stuff. The direct approach is the way to go. However, you need to be prepared to experience some change in the relationship. Taking the next step and telling each other how you feel is a line that can't be uncrossed. So, if you really want to know, you have to be prepared to risk the relationship as it stands right now. I think the saying is "No risk, no reward." Good luck! What's your question?
I have a friend group with guys in it, and I really enjoy hanging out with these guys, but my dad doesn’t let me go to school events with them like football games or basketball games. My dad thinks that one of the guys are gonna kiss me or whatever, but they wouldn’t. I know they wouldn’t. Even if one of the guys did try to, I would rip his ear off. I can handle myself. But how can I prove to my dad that I can? Mr. Bobcat: Dear Boys, First congrats on finding a group of friends you feel comfortable around! Jr. high can be a rough place, but having friends that you can feel comfortable with makes it less horrible. So let's get into it. First I want you to know that your dad loves you and just wants to protect you even when it seems annoying or like he’s ruining your life. Ok, so you want to hang out with your guy friends but dad won't let you. Maybe something you should try is telling your dad that you are in no way attracted to them at all, that you don’t like your guy friends like that and that they don't like you like that. You can also explain to him that you're not going to be there alone with the boys; there will be teachers at the games and other adults. There also aren't really any secluded areas at the stadium. There are always people by the concessions or on the fields by the actual football field. There are even people outside the gates of the stadium. Even if the boys tried to do anything, there will always be people around that you can ask for help. You want to prove to your dad that you can be responsible and he can trust you with the boys right? So the most important thing to do is to not lie to him, to not tell him they’re not gonna be there even if they are. Lying will create a relationship block between your dad and you, one where you can't trust him and he can’t trust you. Tell him the truth and show him he can trust you even with boys. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart with your dad. Talk to him about how you don’t like the boys and that if they did try anything you can protect yourself. You should talk to him about how you think it's unfair that he won’t let you hang out with people you genuinely get along with. Talk to him about how having a friend group to hang out with out of school can really help you with your mental health and social skills. The last thing you could do is show this article to your dad and maybe that will help him understand that this is something that is really bothering you. What is your question?
I used to have a huge crush on this guy, but then I stopped liking him, but I don't know how to tell them, cause I think they still think I like them and I think they like me, how do I let them down easily? PS no one has ever liked me and we are really good friends so I don't want to ruin that... Mr Bobcat: Dear Let them down lightly, What a good question! Good thing I know how to answer! Ok so first if you guys are truly friends then they will understand and will want to stay friends. You could also tell him you don’t like them anymore and because you aren’t sure if they like you you won't have to bring up them liking you and you can continue being friends. Another word of advice is it's only awkward if you make it awkward. If you avoid them or act differently in a bad way around them it's just going to make everything more awkward than it needs to be. And maybe acting more yourself around them can show them you're more of a friend to them instead of a crush. It all really comes down to what your relationship looks like, like how good of friends you are and how serious the crush was. Good luck! Whats your Question?
I am a new student who just moved. I had a really good friend group at my old school and now I have no one. I have met some people but I don't know if we are actually friends or not. I want to be able to hangout with them, how do I know if we are actually friends? Mr. Bobcat: Dear anonymous New student, Ask them if they want to hang out and see if they start to talk about people and if they are saying good or bad things about the people in your friend group but don't try to get them to talk bad about them and ask questions about them and try to get to know them better and be in conversations try to relate with them and be yourself. What's your question?
I just got diagnosed with autism and I'm worried people will treat me differently once I tell them or worse, not believe me. I'm high functioning on the spectrum and don't fit into the autistic stereotype. I don't want to hide this big part of me from the people I'm close and I want them to know so they can help me with my diagnosis but I'm scared they won't take it well. Help? Mr. Bobcat: Dear Anonymous Autistic, Please understand that you are a person with autism, not autistic. Autism doesn't define who you are as a person. You need to remember you are the same person that you were before your diagnosis. As far as telling people, I think you could just ease into it and show them that you’re the same person you were. It might take some time to show that or for them to realize that, but if they are true friends, they will love you regardless, and they will accept you. It might be hard for a little bit with them, but if you don’t act different, why would they? It might take time for them to realize that, but all you need to do is be patient and remember you are loved. What is your question?
Dear Mr. Bobcat, I really have been wanting to be a better person, do you have any tips on that? Mr. Bobcat: Dear Better Person, The first thing to be a better person is to ask yourself some questions. Like what is your end goal? And why do you not feel like a good person? Now choose your motivation. Do you want to be a better person so you can be popular? Or maybe you want to end starvation. As long as you have that end goal in mind then you will continue towards that final goal. One more thing: be selfless! The more you do that, more people will turn to you. What's your question?
So me and this boy like each other, and we can talk over text, but we have a hard time talking face to face. And our friends make it weird in between us. Mr. Bobcat: Dear, Awkward, You should try calling and actually meeting up outside of school (where your friends or his friends can't make it weird) and just having a normal conversation with him. Try to get to know him! You could ask him if he wants to meet up after school or on Saturday, and if he says “yes” or a form of “yes,” then you could have a picnic at Smith Park or go to K’Lanis and just hang out. Good luck! |
|