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Who can we talk to if we are having a hard time, and we are to scared to talk to the counselors? Mr. Bobcat: Dear Sam, I'm truly sorry that you're having a hard time. I think it's safe to say that there are a lot of us that can relate. If you aren't comfortable talking to the counselors, there are several options: 1) Talk to one of the Hope Squad members or advisors; 2) Talk to one of the principals. They are really understanding; or 3) Talk to friends or family. The heart of the message is that there are a lot of people that genuinely care about you. As long as you are talking to one of them and not bottling it up, you're on the right track! Good luck to you. We're all wishing you the best.
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What's your question? I had a friend, and she was my best friend. We got in a fight and now she's ignoring me. I will greet her in the hall and she walks away. If she ever does reply it's one word answers. I've apologized like seven times and she hasn't even though it was both of our faults. the worst part is it happened two months ago and no matter how much I try to talk to her she keeps pushing me aside and ignoring me. She only talks to me when she needs something and then I'm given the silent treatment again. This really hurts as she was my best friend since fourth grade and that was ruined overnight. What can I do? Should I stop talking to her? Should I move on? I just really want her to talk to me again. Mr. Bobcat: Dear What Can I Do, This is a situation that so many people have been in and is one of the trickiest to handle. There is no perfect answer or solution; you and your friend might never have the same relationship you did before. While it is important to know that, you don’t have to accept it. Since you’ve known each other for so long, it’s not probable, likely, or expected that you could just forget her or never talk to her again, and the same goes for her. Instead, remember your fun times and your hard times - they are what’s made your relationship so strong before the fight. Accept that she might not want to be best friends with you anymore, but you can still be friends in the future. Keep her as an acquaintance at the very least, so that if she later wants to reconnect with you, you can give it a go. If you don’t think you can or want to reconnect, that's fine as well, and your bestie can deal with that. Sometimes people aren’t ready when we want them to be, which hurts, but it’s important to respect that. Forcing her to hang out with you might hurt you both in the long run. You will both find new friends and people to hang out with – time, change, and circumstances make this inevitable. You might be friends with each other again, but you might not. The thing with friendship is that it’s a two-way street, so you can’t force her to stay friends with you, and that means you’re not responsible for staying friends with her. There are plenty of other people in the Jr. High who are very friendly, so if you can remember to keep an open mind to new people and ideas, (or maybe even old people and ideas, just to be extra open), I think you’ll find someone that could be your new best friend. I say new because they could probably never totally replace your old one and that probably wouldn’t be ideal anyways, as you’d most likely go down the same broken path that led you here, asking for advice from your school mascot. That advice will end with: if you want to at least be friends with this person, try being patient, keeping a couple, (but no more than), tabs on them, and stay at a close enough range that if she ever wants to reach out to you, she’ll be able, but a far enough distance so both of you can still move on with your lives and not be too hurt. I wish you luck and happiness! Mr. Bobcat What's your question?
Have you ever felt that if you do something wrong you need to punish yourself cause I do, all the time even when I get it right. I feel lost or even grim. Mr. Bobcat: Hey! I totally understand how your feeling. Punish yourself isn't always the best idea. Limiting yourself depending on the circumstance is better than a hard core punishment. When you do something wrong it's something to work on for the future. Doing something right doesn't mean it should result in a reward but you should at least be proud of yourself. Everyone goes thru a moment where they doubt themselves and it's ok. You just need to be able to be proud of yourself of what you do correctly. If this keeps getting bad and the only thing you're doing is punishing yourself then you should contemplate talking to a school counselor. We have wonderful counselors here at the Jr. high that would be more then happy to help. What's your question?
Dear Mr Bobcat, why is there a section in sports for cheer but not dance. The Madison Jr High Dance Team has an upcoming competition in Rigby that we want every on to see. Please add a section in sports for dance. Mr. Bobcat: Thank you so much for your feedback. One of our amazing rundown students is working extra hard to get the sports page redone. There is a dance page it just hasn't been published to the website yet. We are working extra hard to get it posted. Thanks for the feedback and we will get the new and improved sports page up and running as soon s possible. What's your question?
I am so frustrated at the school right now. They have literally blocked every thing. I'm an half-online student and use a Chromebook from school. They have blocked YouTube so I couldn't even watch a video that was assigned to me. I want to know why its soooooooooo important to block every thing on our Chromebooks. Mr. Bobcat: I am sorry that you are frustrated :( The school unblocked YouTube, and you should be able to use it now! I know for me it was very frustrating too! I’m not 100% sure why they block stuff, but it can be annoying. Hopefully you can access the internet again! I heart you, and you are amazing! What's your question?
I feel like I have no purpose anymore. I had severe depression\suicidal thoughts last year and I feel like it’s coming back a little. I’ve been going to therapy for a year and my therapist is awesome but I don’t wanna keep going on anymore. Life is just getting harder for me and I feel like every morning I wake up is another morning I’m dragging my life on and I’m constantly pretending to be happy. I don’t play any sports so I’m basically bored as heck most of the time and I have what seems like so much drama going on. My best friend hates me and we weren’t the ones in a fight, it was her mom and my mom and my mom keeps saying “if they wanna keep being angry, they can but we have to move on, and if you and (BFF’s name) have a true friendship, she will put this past her. Im afraid she won’t tho and it’s gonna kill me if she doesn’t because we’ve been BFF’s for almost 5 years and I don’t wanna let all of that go…and to make it worse she’s in my ward so I see her at church and at mutual and I’m afraid if she doesn’t let this go, I’ll have to hold back tears every time I see her. I feel COMPLETELY hopeless. Mr. Bobcat: It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of stressors right now, and I’m concerned about the feelings of hopelessness and lack of purpose you shared in your letter. On top of that, feeling isolated and alone can make what you are experiencing worse. When you are struggling with feelings of hopelessness, despair, and depression it is helpful to get as much support as possible. Building your inner strength and resilience as well as increasing your outside support system are both important steps to help you get healthier. It sounds like you have a good therapist and your family may already be aware that you are struggling, but I’d also like for you to consider stopping in to the school counseling office. The school counselors can be a great resource when you’re here at school. They can help you learn about and implement healthy skills, offer an extra level of support, and/or help you build your inner and outer resources. Stop by and visit with one of them anytime. Sincerely, Mr. Bobcat Mr. Bobcat:
Dear Alone, I received your question. Thank you for sending it. Please visit with one of our incredible counselors in the counselors' office. Sincerely, Mr. Bobcat What's your question?
My friend is REALLY good at drawing! Like, REALLY good, and I like art as much as she does but whenever I look at her drawings, I feel like I’m really bad. I just wish I could be as talented as her. I don’t do anything interesting, I don’t play piano, I don’t do sports, art is all I have but it’s getting harder to keep going, especially if I just wanna support my friend. I don’t know what to do. Mr. Bobcat: Dear 😒, I understand exactly where you're coming from! I'm an artist myself and often compare myself to other artists. What I recommend is putting a positive spin onto the comparisons. Look at their art and notice what you like about it. Get specific! If you like their line art, for example, what do you like about it? Do you like that it's "scratchy" or "bold"? Do you like the "flowiness" or "sharpness" of their lines? Then apply it to you own art! Make it an opportunity to learn! You can even ask your friend to teach you if you want. Remember that there is no such thing as perfect. Your art is amazing because it's yours. No one else can make art like yours because you make it! I would love to see your art if you upload it to the "Student Artwork" section here at Madison Rundown! Keep creating, and best of luck! What's your question?
So I told this girl I liked her and she said she likes me back before Christmas break. When I come back she said she doesn't like me. I'm super confused and lost. I tried talking to her telling her we could just be friends but now she doesn't even want to be friends with me. I don't know what to do? Mr. Bobcat: I'm so sorry! This is not an easy thing to deal with. I think for one, you kinda dodged a bullet there. If she isn't going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, she's not worth it. I know it can be hard to let go of someone that you really like but it will become a toxic relationship if she isn't going to put in the amount of effort you are putting in. I think if you really want to make this work, you need to have an honest talk with her and try to understand why she is acting the way she is. Good luck! You look amazing today! What's your question?
It seems as though everyone in school is too caught up in their own lives to care about what's going on with other people. I myself am going through a very hard family situation and I know I'm not the only one, but it seems like no one cares about their peers. So I think that the student body should be doing more to help and care about other students. Mr. Bobcat: Dear Undefined, Thank you for writing me. I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. I think you're right--there are a lot of people that are struggling. I think we can definitely do better at watching out for others in general. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the things that we're going through, and we don't recognize the people around us. How do we fix it? Well, that's a tough one. I think we have to start with ourselves. If we set the example and go out of our way to focus on others, it will start a movement. As each person recognizes how our caring made them feel, they will do the same for someone else. The Hope Squad is dedicated to that exact thing. Please know that you can go to any of them at any time. |