Shy

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I am not a very confident person and I want to make other friends but I think I will say something stupid and I couldn’t deal with that. I used to be so outgoing and made friends so easy but I went through a serious phase of depression for three years and now I’m so much more quiet than I used to be and I kinda hate that because I’m that one persons friends that nobody knows because all of my friends are popular and I resent myself for that some days and I tried changing my clothes and attitude to be cool and I ended up losing a group of friends that day but that’s what happens every time and I feel like I can’t change anything…😞

Mr. Bobcat:
Dear Shy,
   
When it comes to worrying about saying something stupid, try and remember that it's okay. It happens to everyone. Know you aren't alone when feeling like you aren't yourself or your friends don't seem to like the real you. It's not your fault. If anything, your friends are at fault. Try and be like how you used to be. Dive back into your memories and try and remember what you were thinking when you made friends easily and didn't worry about saying something stupid. 

Don't change your appearance to make others like you more, change your appearance to make you like you more. Wear what you feel like wearing. Try and find friends who don't judge you for you. I suggest trying something new. Join a completely new group that has a wide variety of people and figure out who you vibe with the most. Temporarily forget your shy self. Then see how you act with strangers who don't know you, and that's probably the real you.

Remember that it's completely okay to be shy, that it's completely human to embarrass yourself every little while. Change is okay. If other people don't like you, move on to someone that does.