What to Do

What's your question?

My toxic friend keeps on apologizing and then is rude to me again. She only comes back to me to have someone to vent to and she treats me like trash half the time. how do I tell her how I feel without being mean?

Mr. Bobcat:

Dear What to Do,

Look, I am so so soooo happy you decided to reach out. In your question, you said that you know your friend is toxic. You know your friend isn't good for you, so why do you keep them around? You say they leave you but come back just because they need to talk to someone, but this is literally the definition of an abusive friendship. The way your “friend” is treating you is not okay--100% not okay. If you want to tell them how you feel and try not to be mean about it, then I believe that you need to just tell them. If they say you're being mean or try playing the victim, it simply doesn't matter. Explain to them their behavior and how its hurting you. Don't say “You’re a toxic friend!” Instead, try saying, “When you do this, it makes me feel like this.” You need to do what's best for you and try to build up your other friendships because real friends will support you and make you feel loved and appreciated. I'm so sorry you’re going through this because toxic friendships are hard, but as long as you tell them how you feel, and you're being honest, I do think you will feel better. They may get mad or they may try to fix themselves, but the moral of the story is: you need to do what's best for you.