Left Out

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​Dear Mr. Bobcat, My two best friends have started whispering and not telling me what they are talking about. I feel really left out. I want to find new friends but I don't want to be leave them because I know that they will get mad at me. what do I do!

Mr. Bobcat:

Dear, Left Out

Junior High School and High School is one of the hardest times of someone's life. In this difficult time of life, friends can be a lifeline, to confront a group of friends is hard because of something called being group stupid. Group stupid is when a group of people get together and feed off of each other's "vibes" it causes you to do things you wouldn't do alone. Maybe your friends are being "group stupid" and whispering to bug you? Confront them about this. If it is about you you should start out by setting the tone. Tell them that you need to talk to them and this is serious. Tell them if it is about you then they know why you stop hanging out with them. From personal experience being the "3rd wheel," it is hard. you are always the friend to walk behind the other two on the sidewalk. Finding a new friend is hard for some people if this is easy for you it won't be hard to justify finding new friends. In summary, tell them that it bugs you, and if they stop good job if they don't then just little by little stop showing up, don't go to lunch with them one day maybe say you are busy and not show up to something eventually they will leave you alone. 
-Mr. Bobcat