Happy Bean

What's your question?
How do I become more confident? I always try to not compare myself to others, but it's like every time I look in the mirror I feel ugly, depressed, and feel like a failure. I used to be confident, then I came to junior high, and everything went south. It's like anything I do I feel like I'm failing in life, and I wish I was popular and pretty and cared for. I just wish I could gain my confidence back. Any thoughts?

Mr. Bobcat:
Dear Happy Bean,
Thank you for trusting me with this. I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. The truth is, you're not alone--many of us struggle with these same feelings. Junior high is hard! The classes are tougher, social circles matter more, and we all just want to be accepted. You are beautiful. Do you know how I know? Because you are a human being. That's enough! I know that sounds like lip-service, but I really mean it. Popularity comes and goes, but it doesn't count for anything when it comes down to it. Relationships and the way you treat other people is what counts. Give yourself the same grace to be less-than-perfect that you would give to anyone else. Find the things that make you happy, and embrace those things. Care for other people. All of those things can bring confidence. If you are feeling overwhelmed or lonely, you can always go to any member of the Hope Squad. They care. You matter. This school is better because you're in it. Thanks Happy Bean, for writing. I hope to hear from you again.