Disappointed

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I auditioned for the school play, but I didn’t get a part. I’m really sad and disappointed about this. I was really looking forward to this. One of my really good friends got a part and I am happy for her, but I am having a really hard time trying to be happy for her. I don’t want to put a damper on her fun in the play, but I am sad. Should I tell her how I feel or just suppress my feeling?

​Mr. Bobcat:
​It must be hard to not have gotten a part in the play. I understand that this was something that you were excited for and it’s okay to be sad, but way to go for auditioning!  That took courage, and from this experience, you can learn about what you could do better next time!  Don’t give up just because of one audition. You rock, and I admire your bravery! Now, onto the next matter of business. I know that it can be hard to feel happy for your friend when she got something that you wanted. And, like I mentioned before, it’s okay to be sad. It’s a good thing that you want to and are trying to be happy for her. That might take more courage and energy than your audition! If you feel this way for her and care about her that much, then she probably cares a lot about you as well. She probably feels bad about what happened and wants things to stay normal. If you think she deserves the part, let her know - but don’t push yourself down. You matter too, so try having a light conversation with her and tell her how you feel. Allow her to communicate her feelings as well. All in all, the best thing to do would be to make sure she knows you aren’t angry with her. Make it clear that you are happy for her. I hope that this helps!